In Polite Company, We Don’t Talk About It


In polite company, we don’t talk about politics or religion… or about nutrition.  images-6Let’s face it.  1 in 3 of us are having to deal with being overweight – and so are many of our kids.  You can find expert advice on how to lose that weight on every street corner – a dime a dozen.  But, what no one talks about is the emotional addiction to that food.  We use food in our culture to celebrate.  We reward our children with treats.  When most of us think about food, it makes us happy.

I recently watched a video of Dr. David Kessler explaining the science behind this emotional attachment to food  in “The End of Overeating” (the video is below).  Basically, sugar, fat, and salt in combinations trigger the pleasure center in our brain.  Americans’ diet over the last four decades has increased tremendously in those three ingredients with the processing of our foods. Those foods, in turn, act like a drug – stimulating our brain.

The power of the food addiction (I know, no one likes the word “addiction”, but there it is) doesn’t necessarily come from the food itself.  We are driven (much like Pavlov’s dog) by stimuli all around us.  Anticipation is powerful.  imgres-4It is the smell of the pizza when I walk into Costco that gets me in trouble – long before I actually see or taste said pizza.  As a matter of fact, the very thought of going to Costco makes my taste buds start watering.

So, really, those of us that are wanting to lose weight need to deal with the emotions of eating first.  (I don’t pretend to be an expert, but replacing a behavior with a new behavior is working for me. Also, avoiding situations that will get me into trouble is very helpful when I’m hungry.) images-7Changing how we think about food – and feel about food – is a necessity if we want to lose the weight and actually keep it off this time.

As a society, Dr. Kessler recommended adding boundaries back into how we view food.  Over my lifetime, smoking has made the transformation from being acceptable to not.  Food can’t be demonized the way smoking has been done, because we all need food. But, going back to it being three meals a day (instead of grazing all day) will be a step in the right direction.  imgres-5

As for me, I have to be the change I want to see in the world first.  I’ve got to lose the weight and the emotional baggage it represents for good.



Can You Make Change?

Most people do not like change.  Our routines make us feel safe.  I am one of those people. My family dynamics are static.  I can eat the same thing for lunch a month in a row. I keep most items in particular places so I always know where they are.  Plain.  Simple. Safe. Sane.


However, I need new things in my life all of the time.  I create changes often, and that makes me happy (as long as I’m in control of the changes being made). For example, think about women’s hairstyles.  I know quite a few women who have had the same hair style and hair color for as long as I’ve known them.  Every day… they fix their hair the exact same way.  Other women have the same cut and color but style it differently day to day.  I am neither of those women. My hair cut, color, and style change with my mood.  If I am feeling a deep down need for change, it is often expressed on top of my head.

Sometimes, I rearrange furniture to satisfy that need for change.  Sometimes, I create new projects.  Sometimes, I meticulously clean.  Sometimes, I distress and destroy.  I vacation in a different place every year.  No matter how I do it, I need to create change in my life.

So, I blog different subjects.  Because, I need that change of scenery on my screen.  That is just how my inquisitive mind works – rarely resting on the same topic twice.  Besides, isn’t change the spice of life?